Rather than start conversations with everyone I know about what I think and why I do, I decided to write about this topic in depth. Hopefully this will answer common questions and concerns people have about what I believe.
The first point I want to make clear concerns the injustice of the Supreme Court’s decision. I’ll try not to go too in depth as to the flaws in our current political system (especially because it really is quite good compared to the rest of the world) but sometimes things get out of hand. In this case, nine justices were left the responsibility of deciding a matter that affects every citizen of the United States (and quite a few who aren’t). Whether or not it infringes on my rights (as most will argue it will not), the redefinition of marriage made by the Supreme Court affects my personal life and that of countless others.
It removes from me the freedom to define marriage according to my religious beliefs. It removes from children the right to be raised by two complementary parents—a mom and a dad. It declares that the government has the power do these things without a general consensus or public vote.
The final decision on a matter as important as this should not be made by government representatives. It should be made by the people.
In fact, it has been made by the people before. In what I consider my home state of California, Proposition 22 was passed years ago adding legislation that recognized only marriage between a man and a woman. This legislation was added based on a popular vote. Later, it was overturned by a small number of representatives on the California Supreme Court. Proposition 8, adding an amendment to the California state constitution, was similarly passed by millions of people through a popular vote and promptly overturned by a small number of court representatives. As the years have passed, other states have made their own policies concerning the definition of marriage. Now the entire representation of the will of millions of people concerning this matter has been removed and replaced with a decision made by the majority of just nine members of the Supreme Court of the United States.
Is this democracy? Is this the free United States of America we sing about?
As a result of this debate, many people have incited heated arguments on both sides. I won’t seek the defend either side at the moment because I’m sure people on both sides have caused plenty of trouble. The point is this—this issue does not require name-calling (homophobic, bigot, queer, or other harmful words) or insults. This issue requires careful study, reasonable discussions, and at least a consensus to leave the topic be if no agreement is to be made.
I have plenty of experience trying to share people what I believe and convince them of what I know to be true, and I am fairly certain that some people just won’t change in the short amount of time we expect them to. At best we can extend our love and be patient. The time may come where they will be able to see things the way we do.
I am appalled at the reactions of some when they get involved with discussions about this matter. Many appear to be proud of the way they ruin their relationships with longtime friends and insult people who disagree with them. They flaunt the poor way they have treated others. I myself held a private conversation about this issue with an old friend who then proceeded to publicize our discussion along with insults pointed at me.